work relationship

I am developing a pretty unique relationship with someone I work with. I know everyone says you shouldn't do that, that its not someone you want to see all the time if something goes awry etc. However, this relationship just formed organically. Interestingly enough it has happened over the last five or six months and has just recently really solidified.

It all really started intensifying about three months ago when working with this person they felt comfortable enough to air out some of the way this person feels about some particular shortcomings in the office. We were able to look into eachothers' eyes, nod in agreement, I was able to add the customary "Yeah!" or "Really?.. Didn't know that, but I can see it now." On this particular project I did a pretty good job and gained the faith of this MD, and thus the relationship grew.

Relationships in the office are based on trust, secrecy, and ability. I immediately had the first, per his assumed ability to air things of a particularly sensitive nature to a guy as green as I, I displayed the second in connection with the first, and have since been able to display the last on ensuing projects that we have been working on together.

This most recent project has really, however, brought us to a unique point. The other reason that it has done so well is due to the "middle age factor". I will briefly describe what most social scientists simply call MAF. You once were young, you had fun, you dated alot of people probably, liked to party, worked a pretty good job, made some good money = able to do fun things and spend irresponsibly; generally you never saw yourself getting married. However, at some point one of two things happened.

1) Someone realized you made good money and convinced you to get married to them.

2) You convinced yourself you had to get married at some point, and eventually it was the worst of a set of possible evils, so you did it.

Now, this is not the case for all people, but for how I see it for this person that I am speaking of.

The MAF at some points results in you longing for your youth, or some connection with something a little more exciting, risky, or fun than all the prevailing MAF-esque factors that control your life. That's where I come in, I'm young, well groomed (although not as well as some), and above all, am not married and have something of an open-ended looking next 10 years of my life. The working together factor + the MAF factor + the way we know what each other are thinking + the way sometimes we catch a glimpse of each other's eye and blush (just kidding, well not really, but yeah kidding ::wink wink::) have really led to our relationship blossoming as the days fall, one after the other, the next before the last...

This all culminated in him coming into my office, standing at my door for ~ 2 minutes in silence, him laughing, me laughing in return, we both shake our heads in disgust for the way this deal has been proceeding (or lack thereof!!! hahahahaha), and he left without either of us having to say a word... but we both knew....